Full Circle Fridays|Week 6: Full Circle

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What does coming Full Circle mean to me? I named my business this; I talk about my own full circle healing; I believe everyone can come full circle themselves. So what am I really talking about?

Well, provocatively, I don’t even know that this is a circle shape in the way I view it. To me, with coming full circle, it means you hit an arcing point (not necessarily stopping point), where you’ve had enough, and you realize you need to untangle some knots and heal some wounds and fix some things and make some changes. It’s in that development, that recognizing where you are and having earnest desire to see a new outcome, that you start the arcing down into a full circle lifestyle. You change the course of the path, and you essentially return to yourself.

I believe we are all born with an innate worthiness and goodness. I believe we have a lot of path choices and a good GPS navigation system built-in to help us along. Then I also believe that many good and many bad things can thwart your effort to choose the best path for yourself at times — but nothing can actually take away your right path. Things like: childhood neglect, abuse, losing a loved one, being an ARMY kid moving all over the world, falling in love, finding a secure career, or having a baby inside or outside of a relationship. Without classifying any of those things, they are all able to capture your spirit for a time and move you off your path, maybe onto a whole new path you never knew existed, or maybe into someone else’s path.

However, no matter what — your true path that is available for your best lived life is still there. It didn’t leave you, you (voluntarily or not) left it. Life does that — lures us, thrusts us, hog ties and drags us, tempts us, lies to us. Anything to get us off our intended authentic path. I don’t mean this path to be just the things of “doing” but also the things of “being”. Who we are authentically when we are true to ourselves, healed and whole again, is actually more important than the lifestyle choices, career options, and relationship status. When on the intended path of your life though, you do discover your authenticity — as well as the best ideas, concepts, goals, etc for your life because you are living in your trueness.

So at some point in time on this road of Life, you have to make a pivot. You re-arc where you were and start coming home inside yourself. When you’ve had that introspection, realization, and recalibration, this is where the deep dive starts and where the hard trauma recovery road begins. Now, you are navigating through the waters of trauma processing, identity reconfiguration, understanding your trauma triggers and responses, making peace within yourself for what you’ve been through, doing the therapeutic work, intentionally changing the lies you’ve been believing about yourself, etc, etc, etc. This step of the journey — that’s arduous recovery road. You do all that though in order to close that arc and come back to your original self.

Sometimes that looks like walking along in one long circle, sure. Often for me, it’s a big, long winding road the wrong way, making the U-turn on the cul-de-sac, and finding my way back to the main road. You may have gone so deep down several “no outlet” roads that you have to wiggle your way out very carefully, like a maze. Sometimes it’s stair-stepping around in the same area trying to find what level you need to get off on. Life never looks the same for any one person, and it is more often than not very messy for most of us.

This is why I say that the trauma recovery road is not just very hard, but also very worth it. The trauma identity life you are living is not easy either, so why not take the harder working road back to the place you are ultimately looking for? Healing. Wellness. Health. Managing yourself from a place of authenticity. True self-love. Living in harmony with yourself and circumstances. Peace. Joy. Your own designed quality of life.

The Full Circle moment starts when you change directions and commit to the recovery journey. The healing comes from the hard work of closing the gap from what trauma made of you to getting back to who you were meant to be.

I believe you can do this and that you can intuitively run/walk/crawl/slide your way back to your authentic self. Any guidance you need along this journey, from deciding if you should adjust your arc to traveling back into your true self, I’d love to help you as you go. Feel free to send me a message on the “Connect” tab of my website, or schedule a Complimentary Discovery Call on my “Work with Me” section in the link below and see if coaching is right for you.

The advocacy and coaching work that I do now with trauma survivors is part of my full circle healing. It’s part of my story; it’s how I’ve come to my authentic self. I just came back with a story to tell, experiences to share (and I threw a little wisdom and knowledge in with it) so that I help others create what looks like their best life.