Wellspring Wednesdays|Week 24: X-Factor

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Coming full circle in this trauma recovery path means recognizing your innate goodness and your inherent self-worth. If you are still struggling with that, that’s okay. We are all at different places in our journey. If you are truly starting to love yourself, cherish your worth, and realize your amazingness, I’d like to share this topic to help you suss out what makes you so great. I find this to be more of an exercise than just an informational episode. You are more than welcome to just listen and ponder, but you may get a lot out of this one by actually pausing this as we go and really thinking on the answers or maybe journaling them out. If you get stuck on any questions, that’s fine. You can just write them down for later, bring them to your therapy or coaching session, or get some insights from your close friends.

Doing an exercise like this really roots down into an important part of trauma recovery: reclaiming your authentic self. This is the magical power where self-awareness meets self-love. It’s okay to love yourself completely as you are now and also to want something even better for yourself. It’s great to really appreciate your hard work and know that you aren’t done yet. It’s also amazing to realize your full potential and then take your time actualizing it. I guarantee, though, we all have x-factors that make us unique who we are as an individual — no matter where we came from, what we went through, what our last name is, who we want to be, what others think of us, or anything about our physical shape and size. Let’s give this a try.

What is something noteworthy about you?

What is a special talent or gift?

What are some of your best personality traits?

What is your strongest, easiest moral to comply with?

What makes you uniquely you?

What are the top three compliments you get from safe, loving people in your inner circle?

What are the top three compliments you get from people who just meet you?

What remarkable characteristic seems to flow from your soul?

What would you do with three magic wishes?

What was the best day of your life, and why?

What five main things would you do or say if you knew tomorrow was your last day on earth?

What makes you great?

What momentous achievement have you had?

What is an accomplishment you have always wanted to reach?

What components make up the favorite person in your life?

What elements make up the three most influential people, in your opinion, in the whole world and span of history?

What are some of your most crucial desires?

What quality do you admire most in people?

What in the past has stopped you from being everything you ever dreamed?

What is the source of your strength and resilience?

Taking these questions to heart, you are finding your own x-factor. The superhero that lives inside of you is hidden inside these answers. When you feel ready, take some time to pursue these like riddles of your soul. We all have an x-factor; we all have greatness deeply rooted and organically ingrained in us. Accept nothing less than that for yourself. Maybe you aren’t ready to discover all these answers today, and that’s okay. When you are and when you find it, I’d love to hear about it. If you get stuck and need insight, I can help with that too. Trauma recovery can be so hard that we forget to stop and recognize all the amazing work we do. Finding your x-factor, take a Jubilation Moment to celebrate yourself. You are nothing short of remarkable!